Psychologist, sexologist,
couples therapist

I am a practicing psychodynamic and analytical psychologist, working individually in person and online with adults and couples. An individual analytical session lasts 50 minutes, a pair session - 1 hour 20 minutes. In working with couples, I alternate individual and pair sessions. This time includes arrival, care, time to take off outerwear, go to the restroom. If you are late, the session time is reduced by the time of the delay. If you arrive earlier, I will ask you to wait until the agreed time.

In order to agree on the start of therapy, you can send a request on the website, write to Telegram, Viber, WhatsApp or call. First, I will need to learn your request (very briefly) in order to understand whether it is included in the list of problems that I work with. Then we agree on a convenient day and time for the meeting. The time is fixed for you as soon as the prepayment is made.

Practice shows that in order to understand whether we are suitable for each other, 5 diagnostic meetings are necessary. During this time, we look at each other closely. You observe yourself, how comfortable you are working with me, I delve into the essence of your problem and determine how useful I can be to you. The recommended frequency of meetings is 1-2 times a week.

In my experience and given the specifics of the approach, the most effective mode of meetings is 2 times a week. If you do not have an acute problem, then the minimum regularity of meetings is possible - 1 time per week. It is advisable to choose a mutually convenient day and time and fix them.

Psychotherapy is built according to clear rules aimed at creating a sense of security in you:

1. First, we agree on a convenient day and time for therapy. The time is fixed for you as soon as the prepayment is made.
2. If it is necessary to cancel or postpone the session, this is always stipulated no less than 24 hours in advance. Cancellation or postponement less than 24 hours in advance is paid in full. Postponement of the session is possible within a week (in case of illness, it is discussed additionally). In any case, you pay for the time allotted to you. The same applies to delays in traffic or at work, feeling unwell, urgent matters, there is no one to leave the child with... By paying for the time that I allocate for you, you get the right to dispose of it as you see fit.
3. During the work, you can talk without fear on any topic, since I always adhere to confidentiality and professional ethics. This means that no one but the two of us will know about the fact of the therapy and the material discussed without your consent. Even your loved ones and relatives.

The direction of the conversation is set by the client. In this case, you do not need to prepare specifically for the sessions, it is better to accustom yourself to talk about what you feel and what worries you right here and now. Let this, at first glance, not entirely relate to the topic of the request. Gradually, everything that you will talk about in the sessions will be combined into a holistic picture. In the process, I will ask questions, clarify, make remarks and comments. As a result, you will be able to take a broader look at your problem, build cause-and-effect relationships.
It is important to understand that in the process of therapy, not only the conscious presentation of the problem is important, but also unconscious signals - movements, facial expressions, warnings, fantasies, bodily reactions, etc. Therefore, offline therapy is better.

The duration of our work with you will depend on the complexity of the request and the desired depth of research. Some people will be enough for short-term therapy (from a few sessions to six months) to solve problems that lie on the surface, while others are ready for a long 4-5-year analysis. We can discuss all this during a personal meeting.

My work as a psychologist is to create for you such conditions in which you could safely live, realize, study, transform your feelings, traumatic experiences and patterns of behavior. So that you can trust, open up, without fear of judgment and retraumatization.

I organize for you specifically structured regular communication, which allows, in addition to conscious immersion in the depths of experiences, to expand your experience with unconscious processes and prompts, which will ultimately bring relief and inner balance. I never give recommendations and advice, do not interfere in your choices, do not evaluate your decisions. But, knowing the laws and mechanisms of the functioning of the psyche, I follow an experimental path together with you. My position contributes to the formation of a more mature and responsible personality in you. My task is to teach you to think about yourself, understand yourself and your reactions, be able to recover and build boundaries. And ultimately - to do without my help in the future.

In order to choose a psychologist, it is necessary to pay attention to some factors:
1. Education and work experience. Training must necessarily include higher education (academic base) and specialized training (since there are a lot of psychological approaches), based on practical mastery of a specific method of psychotherapeutic assistance (CBT, psychoanalysis, body-oriented therapy, Jungian analysis, Gestalt therapy, etc.). ).

2. Participation in supervisory and interventional groups. The work of a psychologist implies supervisory and interventional support throughout the entire professional activity. This is similar to undergoing an internship and residency with doctors, during which academic knowledge is consolidated by practice. In psychology, a supervisor is an experienced psychotherapist who helps the supervisee in finding hypotheses, provides support in discussing a case or its fragment with which the psychologist is experiencing difficulties. Interviewing is also the basis of a psychologist's professional growth, but unlike supervision, it is work in a group of equals in status and level of specialists.

3. Mandatory long-term personal therapy. You cannot become a professional until you have been in the role of a client and have not felt the effect of therapy from the inside. And this is not about the fact that you first need to "cure" yourself (the psyche is always with us and it is impossible to "fix" it), but about learning to think, analyze and feel specifically in order to separate your unconscious material from the client's material in the future, to understand mental mechanisms from your own experience. In addition, in serious universities, personal therapy is a mandatory condition and speaks of the professionalism of the specialist.

4. Gender of the psychologist. If the specialist has sufficient qualifications, then his gender will not matter at all. Any problems, relationships, injuries can be analyzed by a psychologist of any gender. It is important that you feel comfortable working with a person, that you can trust them and feel safe.

5. Recommendations. Recommendations do not always guarantee that this particular specialist is right for you, but they can say that he adheres to professional ethics. At the same time, it should be understood that a competent specialist will never take your friends, close colleagues into parallel work. This violates the main rule of psychotherapy - your safety and confidentiality. After all, in this case you may begin to worry about the reliability of our conversations, which will negatively affect the outcome of the therapy.

The main rule of ending psychotherapy is that it should not happen abruptly, but gradually. The longer the work was, the more time it takes to complete it effectively. After all, a therapeutic relationship is a specific type of relationship, as a result of which trust is formed, a kind of emotional closeness between the therapist and the client. And such a relationship should be ended in such a way that the period or pause is not traumatic. The intention to end psychotherapy should be discussed at least during 2-3 sessions, since sometimes it can be dictated by unconscious resistance to psychological changes or defense. In this case, these several meetings will help the psychotherapist understand your motives and share his vision of the situation, leaving the right to make a decision with you.

Many of you have probably already heard that the first experience of love or dislike, received by us in child-role relationships, directly affects the subsequent choice of a partner. In such relationships, we hope to get what we did not get in childhood, to replay the main conflicts with our parents or to experience a positive experience. We unconsciously try to change what was bad in our family and make our partner a carrier of what is denied in ourselves.

That is why a couple is a very complex system that includes mechanisms of interaction of at least 6 people (partners and their parents) and it is impossible to understand it quickly. As a rule, in order to conduct a diagnostic assessment of a couple, about 6 sessions are required. The first and second sessions are joint, and then there is an alternation of joint meetings with individual ones with each partner. More individual sessions are needed so that everyone has the opportunity to voice facts or feelings that cannot yet be discussed in joint sessions.
Sometimes the first diagnostic sessions are enough, as identifying the real problem and its causes may be enough to allow partners to continue working independently. There are also cases when splitting the pair for parallel individual work causes a lot of anxiety in the partners and the work will be built more on joint sessions.

Duration of the pair session – 1 hour 20 minutes. Individual session – 50 minutes.